Expat Entrapments

As I was checking my fb account this morning, I came across this blog post that another missionary had posted on their wall. I found it very convicting and I'll share below which points were the most applicable to me, but first you need to read it for yourself. Although some things will not apply, I believe some of it can apply to anyone - no matter where one lives. I also think it's a great thing for short-termers to consider before visiting a country. Some short-termers embrace the differences and adventure and some spend their time surviving the experience and complaining or comparing.

Things Expats Need to Stop Doing

The points I struggle with the most are:

#3 - At times it is easy to compare our ministry/language/living situation with other missionaries and this only produces frustration. Besides the fact that it's just plain wrong to do. I have to remind myself that not every missionary's purpose on the field is the same and each country/culture will look different. If I compare my situation to theirs I will become discontent in the calling that God has given to us.

#8 - This can be a problem for me as it is easy for me to think, "If only they would do this. If only they would fix that. If only they would care about this more. If only they would see how much better this could be if...." This attitude assumes that I know the best way and no one else does.

#17 - I am doing a lot better in this area than I was before, but I'm probably still a little overly cautious. Part of it is because of the medical options/philosophies here. One example is that if a child breaks an appendage, they will most likely have to stay in the hospital for at least a couple days. Children over 6 generally stay alone. I know God will help us through this if it happens, but I'm also doing what I can to make sure the boys keep their bones intact. Sending the boys to school has forced me to give a lot of things over to God because I cannot be with them, protect them, guide them, etc. I have to leave them in God's hands.

#18 - To me this one is related to number 8. This country has been around longer than I've been alive, so it can probably continue on without my input or opinions.

#20 - I don't forget to communicate with people back home, but for me, sometimes it it easier to separate myself so that I don't get caught up in the emotions of missing home, familiar things, or the people we know and love. At times I find it is almost easier to imagine that "world" doesn't exist any more so I can keep my focus and attentions here. There is a balance I still need to find so that we don't feel completely disconnected when we return on furlough.

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